In my previous post, I began to discuss what the process of mediation is, and explained that it is voluntary. Mediation is also:
- Impartial (some use the word neutral)
- As a mediator, I work with both (or all) of the parties. I work to understand each person, and to help them consider and speak about what s/he wants and needs for the future. In the context of divorce, this often means talking about a place to live and how to pay for this and other expenses; and, if there are children, about spending time with them, and making decisions in regard to raising and caring for them.
- I do not represent either (or any) of the parties; representing one party against another is something a lawyer often does. Again, as a mediator, I work with all of the parties, helping them to gather and share information, to develop and consider options for going forward, and ultimately in reaching their agreements.
- My role is to help the parties to communicate constructively, to guide them in considering and addressing all of the issues that they need to, to ensure as I am able to that their proposed agreements are workable (reality testing), etc. Without taking anyone’s side.
To be continued . . . .